You must be the change you wish to see in the world
Even funnier yet that after reading the quote I was approached by my older children; complaining that their younger brother was not playing nicely. I jumped at the moment to use this quote and of course I did, they both said ok we get it and took off! Shortly they were back in front of me and I asked my normal question when I know there’s something wrong; “What’s the problem?” They both chimed “we were the change and our change didn’t change him at all!”
In that moment I sent them back off to play and get along, but days and now weeks after this happened It amazes me; that their response is no different than any other child’s and to be totally honest no different than an adult’s response! Sometimes we see change as something that happens right then and there, most of the time when we use the word it’s to reference to a change you see quickly on the spot. When we don’t see the change immediately we can sometimes give up, I know I’ve been guilty of that. So I had been trying to find a better way to explain that quote to my kids; I kept thinking what is the best way to deal with this and as I thought I remembered :
A few years ago when I was teaching dance and my group and I were getting ready for one of our performances, I wanted to use dance scarves as one of our props. I searched everywhere for the perfect ones and could not find them so I set out to make them myself. I went to Jo-ann Fabrics got the material and tools etc. The material was very sheer and delicate and the only way for me to get the design I wanted on them; was I had to use this light box and I had to have a stencil that not only had the shape but also the colors I wanted to use. From there I had to turn the light box on,stick the stencil on a center part of it and then place it somewhere it couldn’t be tampered with. This process they said could take weeks even months. The process was that slowly but surely the light in the light box was going to take the images on the stencil and slowly reflect onto my material, until the material soaked it up and the image would then be embedded in the cloth! The Lady at the store told me it would take patience, and that the reflection must be constant and consistent!
Why at a time like this I would remember such a thing. Even more why am I telling this to you? I am simply saying that sometimes like that cloth I was using, a situation is way to delicate to want instant change ; instant change for that cloth meant it would damage the cloth and lead to it unraveling, and so that goes for our lives! Sometimes the things we want and need to see change in, are the things we need to be willing to place ourselves under a light and be the stencil for or the guidelines for. That we must be willing to be patient, constant and consistent; so that those around us can slowly soak up our pattern to the point that they slowly reflect what we are and what we want to see!
So parents if we want to see certain morals and characteristics in our children; we must not only talk to them about it but we must be willing to be the image for them to reflect!
wives, husbands if we want to see love, respect etc. in our spouses we must be willing to be the image that they can reflect!
As for me I’m not only trying to be the image as a wife, and a parent, but in my life I also have to be willing to be the image of awareness for EPILEPSY! Yes it is something I Would love to see a change over night, but I also know it is too delicate of a cause, situation to want that instant change; for fear that instant change would unravel what others have worked years to build! So I, like many other advocates have to be willing to place our lives, our struggles, our compassion, our love, our hope, our faith, determination, fight and so much more under the light to slowly but surely be reflected and embedded into the world around us!
So tomorrow as we welcome Epilepsy Awareness Month around the world; those walking the journey, those advocating don’t give up, don’t lose sight be patient, constant and consistent your image will lead to the reflection that changes the world!
Happy Epilepsy Awareness Month!